You're engaged, yay! Now wtf are you supposed to do?

Most of us were practically raised on Disney movies. The story is always the same; the gorgeous couple gets engaged (after an incredibly short period of time and very little conversation) and then we fast forward to their fairy tale wedding where they kiss and the credits roll. Spoiler alert- they left out some pretty significant details, and by doing so have created unrealistic expectations for the wedding planning experience. We weren’t properly prepared for the frustration that planning a major event brings. So if you are feeling overwhelmed with your new project, take comfort that you are not alone.

In all honesty though, it’s not Disney’s fault. Budgets aren’t sexy and watching Cinderella and Prince Charming argue over why his alcoholic best friend can’t be in the wedding isn’t romantic. The truth is, if you and your partner haven’t experienced your first argument before the proposal it’s likely you will within the first stages of the planning process. It doesn’t mean you aren’t a good fit, or hell, maybe it does – I don’t know either of you. What I do know is how to plan a wedding. So let’s gear up as I guide you through this magical shit show.

Since this is the first blog we need to start at the very beginning of the process. We need to prepare to plan. You may be thinking “nope, I have shit to do and I am going to jump ahead to the good stuff”, but that is the Disney approach and look where that got us. Trust me when I say that this is where we start.

Step 1. WEIGH YOUR OPTIONS. Seriously, this may sound like silly advice that you can breeze past, but don’t. Remember that a marriage license is the only thing you NEED to get married. The ceremony, reception and everything that they include are OPTIONAL. Sit down with your partner and have an honest and open conversation about whether you really want to plan a wedding. Make a list of pros and cons. For example; it costs a significant amount of money to have a wedding. According to’s annual survey the average cost of a wedding in 2016 was $35,329. I have seen couples drop hundreds of thousands of dollars on a single day. Give it the true consideration it deserves. Afterwards you might decide to save the money or put it towards a super special honeymoon or as a downpayment on a house, and if so you can stop reading. For everyone else continue to step 2.

Step 2. HIRE A PLANNER. As the owner of an event planning company and someone who has been doing this for a loooooooong time I may be a biased party, but I am a big believer that having a planner can save you money, make your planning experience more enjoyable and provide you with a better event than you could plan yourself. If you can afford a planner hire one, and make sure to meet with at least 3 to ensure that you pick the right one. This is a 3rd party you are bringing in to a very vulnerable situation. You want someone with whom you feel comfortable. The planning process is hard enough without adding another voice you don’t want to hear. If you need a referral I might (*aggressively winking*) happen to (*waving and gesticulating wildly*) know one (*clears throat*). If you don’t have the money for a planner or are determined to do it alone, proceed to step 3. 

Step 3. BECOME A VIRTUAL PLANNING CLIENT. CLICK HERE to check out our ridiculously affordable virtual plans and I will continue to guide you through this whole f’ing process. 

Buckle up bitches, we’re going planning! 

5 Responses to You’re engaged, yay! Now wtf are you supposed to do?

  1. splanners Sarah

    I love this! I am having a hard time figuring out how much everything will cost and how to understand all the different pricing structures everyone has. I am getting married in June of 2019 so we are still in the very beginning phase.

    • splanners splanners

      Pricing structures can definitely get confusing, especially when comparing venues. Some have an in-house caterer that includes the room rental in the minimum and some have so many add-on costs that it is almost impossible to adequately look at them side-by-side. I will do my best to break that shit down soon.

      If you need immediate help you can give us a call and buy an hour of consult time or become a virtual planning client. They get access to so many perks of our full planning clients that it feels like you are one. Monthly calls with a planner, step-by-step instructions to complete every step of the planning process and a binder to carry from meeting to meeting that will make everything so simple it’s ri-f#cking-diculous.

  2. splanners Kelly

    Um YES!!! As a previous bride of Jessica’s, she is amazing and spot on! The advice I give any new bride is first, ignore everyone’s advice/opinion. The only opinion that matters is YOURS! Second, hire a wedding planner and not some day of planner! It’ll save you time and stress!

  3. splanners Paula

    This is hilarious can’t wait to read more!!!!!!

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